It is an obvious fact that we can learn and know what true love
is. What we are often not aware of though, is that there are
different love trends. Does it even matter if we understand love
trends? If we are in a happy relationship, then that means it is
all fine, right? Yes and No. Although, your love with your
partner might run smoothly for a while, it can take a turn we
often never expect. This is why knowing about love trends is
helpful.

What may have turned you or your partner on at first, might not
be a turn on later. How is this possible if they seemed so crazy
over certain things before? The reason is quite simple and
reasonable. When we first get involved with people, the
attraction and lust is so strong (not that it would not be
later), that the way one seduces the other is not truly focused
on, but simply instantly appreciated, since they are so drawn to
one another.

As the relationship proceeds and the bond builds, you will start
getting in touch with your own style of loving and expecting
your partner to match up to it. At times, this will be just the
case. Couples can share the same love trend, but at other times,
they can differ. If your trends do differ, do not look at it as
negative, but as a way to combine them and form a creative love
trend together. It should not be one way or the other. There is
no such thing as the wrong way to love, except for obsession,
controlling and abuse, of course-which is not love anyway,
although some feel it is.

How do you even come about recognizing the love personality of
yours or your partners? It is not difficult, but does require
quite a bit amount of observation. Start by making notes of your
romantic qualities and ideas of what great romance, sex and
seduction is to you. Do you like walks on the beach and dining
at cozy, romantic restaurants? Or do you like setting up your
sexual activities by setting up a scene and playing along with
it, or just going with the flow? By knowing what trend you
follow, you will then be introduced to your romantic identity
and know what you need from your partner.

There are several types of love trends that you should know
about. It will help you come to a deeper understanding of what
type of lover you are and your partner as well. People, whose
personalities follow the emotional trend, are lovers who pay
attention more to the meaning behind things, instead of the
thing itself. A man who does not really care for picnics on the
beach may still love the event due to the intention behind it.
He sees the effort his mate put into it and sees the love and
caring meaning that his mate had when the idea was thought of
and planned. Emotional lovers are sensitive and love sharing
with their partners and are also very spiritual. They do not
hold back from expressing their true feelings.

A Creative trend follower on the other hand, may have some of
the same traits as an emotional lover, but focuses more on
discovering new things and trying them out, taking risks for a
bigger thrill. They love to plan and be a part of interesting
activities with their lovers because they like going through
adventures and new territories together. These types of lovers
are found to be quite exciting because they seem to be more
mysterious and full of surprises and imagination.

Then you have the traditional trend follower, who likes to
follow the rules of what society considers the right way to
handle a relationship. They believe in having one partner,
following the dating and romance guides to the point (bringing a
girl some flowers when picking her up at the door for a date,
just to mention one). They also believe in being organized,
being financially responsible and planning the events that will
take place in their lives with their partners.

Those are the main trends that most people fall into following.
This does not mean that a person who has a certain love trend
cannot carry qualities from other trends, however. It just means
they in general carry that love personality. There is no trend
better than the other either. Each trend is unique and
interesting in it’s own way. When two people follow the same
trend, it is fabulous because they both know exactly what the
other is fond of and what to expect as well. There are hardly
mixed signals. Having different trends is also a wonderful
thing. When a couple has their individual love personality, it
opens the door for each one to learn new ways to love
expressions and can create a great trend combination!

Considering and accepting our partner’s different trend of love
is extremely important to do. If you do not, it will seems like
you are just determined to have the romance in your relationship
to go your way, by your trend. This will definitely cause
unhappiness and have a very high possibility for your mate to
back away from romance with you, because he or she will feel
that there is lack of attention towards their needs and trends
concerning romancing. So remember to be considerate and learn to
adapt to their ways too.

It feels fabulous when our lover is being considerate of our
trend, respecting it, following it with us often. You cannot be
the one always being considered however. You will then become
what is called a Constant Receiver. Constant Receivers are
always on the look out for themselves. They never look beyond
their trend and the needs that are involved with it. They always
observe whether or not they are getting what they need and want
from their lovers, and if they feel they could be getting more,
they grab more. What about your partner? What are his or her
needs? Have you even considered what their trend is about and
how you can compromise and follow theirs sometimes? Never let
these questions go unnoticed. If you find yourself being a
constant receiver, it does not mean you are a bad person, but
that you have been a little careless. When you realize this,
stop yourself and look deep down. You will probably realize that
you are aware of your over receiving, and have been so flattered
by it that you got carried away. Once you have sorted this out,
you can start returning the favor back to your partner.

Being a Constant Giver also has its down side. Yes, you would be
always pleasing your partner, but what about you? Is having your
trend considered not important? Of course it is! Do not be too
furious with your mate if this happens. Just remember what you
just learned about Constant Receivers. Your mate most likely did
not ignore your trend needs on purpose, but just got carried
away with being pampered. After all, you did you create this
situation when you were over giving! So many people fall under
this category of giving too much. This is because most people
believe it is more important to please their lovers than having
their own needs and wants fulfilled. Caring about pleasing your
partner is good, but disowning your own romantic identity and
needs, is not. Get back on track by getting your guilt in order
first. Know that you should not feel guilty for wanting or
needing something from your partner. You are entitled to having
those needs fulfilled. You also should not look at giving as the
good thing, while receiving is the bad thing. They are both good
when equally exchanged. Start bringing your romantic trend and
needs to your mate’s attention. You can do this by bringing up a
good movie that is coming out and letting them know that you
really want to see it. Re-teach them that they should give too,
instead of always receiving from you.

Just highlight the fact that there are different love trends and
that they are all unique and deserve to be followed and
participated in. As a couple, you will not only please each
other, but learn more about the other as well! As long as you do
not forget this and understand the importance of an equal share
between giving and receiving, your combination of love
personalities will live in a content environment.

Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for
http://www.love-sessions.com helping those in need of dating,
love, relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice
through e-sessions.